You’ve said hello. Now what? Pick a question you’d enjoy answering yourself, share your answer too, and follow whatever catches your attention.

These work for a first video chat or a virtual smoke session. There’s a little weed talk, a little music, and room for a ridiculous tangent. You don’t need to be smoking to join in.

For the first minute

  1. What’s been the best part of your day so far?
  2. What song would you put on right now?
  3. Are you in the middle of a good show, game, or book?
  4. What’s your ideal way to spend an evening with nothing planned?
  5. What’s something small you’ve been looking forward to?
  6. Are you more into a quiet hangout or a room full of people?

Ask one, then listen. If someone mentions a game, “What keeps you playing it?” usually goes further than jumping to the next question.

When you’ve found a shared interest

  1. What album deserves to be listened to from start to finish?
  2. Which film would you like to see again for the first time?
  3. What’s a hobby you could happily talk about for an hour?
  4. What snack combination do you defend even though nobody gets it?
  5. If you could borrow someone’s skill for a day, whose would it be?
  6. What’s the best recommendation a friend has given you?

Give your own answer some detail. “I like music” leaves little to respond to. “I’m trying to learn the drum part from this one song” gives the conversation somewhere to go.

For a longer hangout

  1. If we made a three-song playlist for this conversation, what goes on it?
  2. What place would you love to spend a completely unplanned afternoon?
  3. What opinion about food or films will you argue for forever?
  4. What’s something you tried once and unexpectedly loved?
  5. What would you like to learn if being bad at it didn’t matter?
  6. What should I check out before the next time we talk?

That last question gives you an easy follow-up if you both want to chat again: a song, a recipe, a game, or something to watch.

For weed talk and high thoughts

  1. If you opened a late-night munchies café with only three things on the menu, what would you serve?
  2. Which movie gets stoner friendships right, even if the rest of the plot is ridiculous?
  3. What’s the funniest misunderstanding you’ve heard about marijuana culture?
  4. If your snack cupboard hosted an awards ceremony, which snack would win lifetime achievement?
  5. What everyday object would be the worst roommate, and why is it the printer?
  6. If we buried a time capsule of tonight’s sesh, which song, snack, and sentence would go inside?

You can enjoy a weed-related conversation without comparing how much anyone smokes. Keep the questions playful and let the other person take the tangent somewhere unexpected.

Smokie’s High Thoughts card offers more odd questions while you wait for a match. Tap it for another one.

If a conversation gets quiet

Try a short observation or story: “That reminded me of the time…” You don’t need to fill every pause or turn the call into an interview. If either person is ready to go, “Good talking with you—have a good night” works.

Avoid requests for an exact location, pressure to consume, or questions about buying or selling. Let the other person choose how personal the conversation gets.

Looking for people to try these with? Read how to find stoner friends online. Already on Smokie? Send a friend request during a good call so you can keep in touch.